Name - Buky aka Ms B
Currently Based - Atlanta, GA
#MadeInNigeria - Surulere, Lagos, Nigeria
Tell me a little bit about your educational and career path?
I've always been inquisitive, enjoy finding backdoor solutions and was that kid that would pick logic and math puzzles for my gifts. I wanted to be an aeronautical engineer but my dad took me to meet the school of business dean at Florida A&M, where he graduated from, as an option. My heart wasn't in it but at 16 and getting a full scholarship for undergrad and grad, I said sure why not. I got a BA and Masters in Business administration and worked as a business analyst until 2 years ago.
Any regrets on taking this path?
No regrets taking this route because great friendships came out of it. However, knowing what I know now, I would have put more focus on classes, people, situations, and opportunities that motivated me and truly made me happy.
Tell me about your business/hobbies?
I picked up gardening about 3 years ago after my mom passed. I had failed at my previous attempts but something clicked this time around. The first time, it was just something I wanted to do for aesthetics and hadn't gone thru something to make me appreciate it in it's pure essence. This time though, it was something I needed to do to nurture my spirit and in this space of focus, I was able to hear God's voice in a language I now understood. The garden needs the gardener (God), the plants (Human), and the soil (Spirit) working in harmony to have a flourishing garden. It has since evolved into a living oasis where we've hosted retreats, people use it for their events and photo shoots, helping others redesign their yards, and recently an Instagram page where I share my journey and inspirational lessons I've learned and learning from the garden.
Life Lessons from your Garden
1) I had planted tons of flowers in the heat of summer before going to help my mom. They ended up neglected for weeks due to staying for the funeral. When I came back, most of them were just sticks with no leaves but were fuller and bushier the next month. I learned that when a plant is stressed from lack of nutrition/ resources, it focuses it's energy on digging deeper roots, sheds it's leaves, then regenerates. Likewise, there'll be times in our lives when we feel neglected, stressed and the gardener (God) is no where to be seen. But it's in those situations that we're being pushed to dig deeper, strengthen our spirit, and shed the superficial things draining our energy; so that we can rebuild, be better equipped to handle different circumstances , and produce more than before.
2) A plant doesn't decide what kind of fruit/ flower to produce based on who bought it. So a roma doesn't give me cherry tomatoes just because I like salads or a beefy tomato because I like burgers. It simply produces what it's been programmed to do. Likewise, I believe we're programmed with specific talents. And instead of trying to tailor them to everyone, just produce what's in you and let those that consume it decide how it will serve them. In essence, I believe our purpose is simply to produce the best of ourselves, not figuring out how we're supposed to be used.
3) Plants often need pruning to remove dead limbs and keep them in the desired shape. Also, pruning triggers a "healing" mechanism, which encourages production of new limbs for a bushier, fuller, more productive plant. Likewise to be healthier, balanced, and more productive, there are people, habits, work, behaviors (etc)that are growing out of control, no longer productive and need to be removed from our lives.
If a little girl walked up to asking for your advice and you only had a few minutes to give ‘em your best tip, what would it be?
Don't let the expectations or opinions of others determine your life. Know what impact you want to make and that'll guide you to who and where you need to be.
What words/quotes do you live by?
To thine own self be true; get over yourself; it's not just about you.
Follow Buky on Instagram @bdeeplyrooted